I'm pretty opinionated about IVF and infertility care, and I try to be an advocate for infertility patients. So -- the new blog. i-fertility 2.0.
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Hidden on a 5 1/4 inch floppy disc in the back of an old filing cabinet is an old WordPerfect file that contains an absolutely terrible memoir I wrote years ago called "Periods: One Man's Adventures in the Menstrual Cycle" about my experiences as an obstetrician/gynecologist and reproductive endocrinologist. Every once in a while, when no one is home, I lock the doors and retreat to an inaccessible space in our apartment -- and re-read what I wrote.
It's been ten years since I saw my last patient, and with a bit of hindsight I realize that "Periods" is, well... still really awful. But buried deep inside the poorly constructed paragraphs and self-indulgent anecdotes are some pretty valuable things -- not from me, but things that I learned from my patients, my teachers and my colleagues.
I'll use this blog to try and share them.
First up -- a list of survival rules my patients taught me.
Infertility patient rules:
1) I will not place my life on hold until I get pregnant.
2) I will not rethink my life based on the fact that I cannot get pregnant now.
3) I recognize that none of this may work, and I'll handle it either way.
4) I will not accept that I have no options.
5) I control how, when and how much of this I do.
6) I will use this as a means to strengthen my relationship, not to weaken it.
7) I will not let others' expectations influence what is right for me.
8) I will be a parent if I choose to. One way or the other.